I am so irritated...I have a full time maid...well i am grateful that i have one
But i hate the fact that we are so dependent on her
And to top it, she keeps reminding me every now and then about it
I have to have a Plan B in place
My son is now 3.3 yrs old and he goes to preschool
Since me an hubby are working, we require someone at home to take care of him
But now I have started feeling..isn't it ok for him to go to a creche...a good creche
I know I might be sounding rude and selfish but i am tired of being so dependent
Tired of the fact that after giving so much freedom, she still throw tantrums
I do understand that she has come from her native, knowing that, I have made sure that she has her freedom
She is treated as one among us
I have never told her not to do this or that...given her complete freedom
These days I have been spending time with her every evening and after all this if she is not happy
Then may be something lacking at my end..but I dont think I will be able to do anything about it
She has been rude these days to my son as well
She has started saying that she would go to her native and he would be placed in a creche
She has also said creche is a place where there are cockroaches and no one will be there
I am suprised to hear all this because this has got me thinking
Why should we always depend on maids so much
This dependence doesnt happen in any other country, as much as in India
I know of my cousins who are settled in US...they dont have maids to attend to their kids...still they manage
Right now I am irritated,frustrated and disappointed...this is so unlike me!!!
Any advice???
Of all the attitudes we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life-changing - Zig Ziglar
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Sunday, December 5, 2010
What am I searching?
There are questions coming up in my life
I have a great life, great family,great job..touch wood
Still I am searching for something... i have weekends to myself
Whole weekend goes in playing with "K",cooking something special,meeting parents, watching TV and lazing around
I feel as though I am wasting time
I want to do a lot like learn driving, learn something new,do something good for the society,earn a new form of dance etc etc
Each day i keep thinking of these, but do not take a step to achieve them
i have made up my mind....i am gonna make my to do list and tick them off as each one of them happens
So wish me luck!!!
I have a great life, great family,great job..touch wood
Still I am searching for something... i have weekends to myself
Whole weekend goes in playing with "K",cooking something special,meeting parents, watching TV and lazing around
I feel as though I am wasting time
I want to do a lot like learn driving, learn something new,do something good for the society,earn a new form of dance etc etc
Each day i keep thinking of these, but do not take a step to achieve them
i have made up my mind....i am gonna make my to do list and tick them off as each one of them happens
So wish me luck!!!
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Bug named "School"/"School Hype"
The other day my mom was saying that any kid who is good will study and come up in life no matter in which school he is!
Well even i believe it to a large extent...padnewale bache kahi bhi pad lenge
After coming to Bangalore, first thing my cousins and colleagues kept saying was "Search for a school"
K is 3 yrs old now, you have to get him into a school so that he is there till his 12th
But me and my hubby, thankfully our thoughts matches to 100% in this context
At the end of the day, we want him to be a good person and take up in life what he wants to
He was going to a preschool and I thought of continuing him in the same for a while
Since mummy is a teacher in Kendriya Vidhyalaya, I thought he could join KV after he is 6
But my mama also said that Bangalore KVs arent great
All around us, parents were talking about admissions,exposure,school quality and yes the "bug of school hype" bit us
In no time were we checking various schools website and guess what we were very late
NPS was done (Only cream get selected)
DPS..well everyone said that its too much of burden(as though NPS wont have!Ha)
Prakriya : One more week to get application form (but the road to reach school is bad)
VIBJYOR: Yes but neighbour says that its not great...kids dont get individual attention
Coming to individual attention, I am a KV product, and in my class we were close to 65...i still got attention and have done good in life(well i believe so :) )
So thats when me and my hubby paused and asked ourselves do we really believe in these criteria
We let me list down the criteria what todays hyped parents look at
School has to be Huge
There should be a ground....horce racing will be an added advantage
Oh yes it has to be ICSE/International School Syllabus....ISCSE
Individual Attention is a must
Must have dance/music/abacus exposure
Montessori is a must if you are looking at junior school
The road to school should be a pleasant ride to kids
Even if your kid is four years old, there should be the facility of one comp per child
Well I can list a lot but yes these are the major criterias
Well me and my hubby after lot of thinking said enough...nomore checking...lets do this next year
But then we got a call from a school. Lets call it "G"....we had got mixed reviews on the same by colleagues
But I wanted to experience, this whole concept of admission procedure and hence we went on the day
BTW, this school is supposed to be a value based school
On the D-day, we were late and we thought poor "k" he must be like what parents I have
"K" was excited to see the big school...these days he's fascinated with kids going in big bus :)
So we reach at 10:30 am, btw, our interview schedule was @10 am
I loved its entrance but the sanskrit scriptures were so fake and so commercial (Thats what I felt)
We were then told to sit in the reception...after a while there was a tour arranged
Tour???Yes tour of the school...the first thought that came into my mind was this must be a huge school, but as we went were shown various classrooms,music class,dance class,value class,yoga class, sick room with a docyor,playground,sports room,computer lab,maths lab etc etc
It was hilarious as though we were visiting the zoo
Yes...actually yes it more or less a zoo
I could see bored and dull students inside bright classes
I even saw a stern teacher :)
After visiting all classes we were finally taken inside the theatre and my "k" with excitement asked which movie are we gonna watch momma?
With great difficulty I kept a straight face and told him to be quiet...Hubby darling was laughing out
And then there was a session on the school
Most of the parents were even jotting down points from the presentation..(Dont believe I exaggerated that part :))
They even mentioned on Sanskrit shlokas, moral values which are a part of the curriculum
Though initially I felt nice healring to it but as time flew I felt it was just a commercial place
They were just using these elements to sell their business
After that we were taken back to the reception and the interview process started
Well interview of the kid and then it was the parents turn
All of this made me feel what were we doing there
I just could not relate myself to any parents over there
Something is seriously wrong with us
I could see parents shouting at their child and saying " Remove your hands from your mouth or else you will not get admission"
I could see parents tensed to the core, as if they have come to give an interview in Mckinsey
We were also interviewed and my son refused to say his name to them....and so we thought thats it its over
Hubby said gosh I have never seen such an environment during my engineering days
I felt the same, while giving my M.Pharm exams I was much cooler
This whole experience made me think a lot
I felt people are missing out so much in life...there is so much hype in schooling these days
Do these kids enjoy all this or they just do it for their parents sake
Felt like telling these parents "Take a Break"
And then in the evening hubby gets a call "Congrats, your kid has been selected. Please come tomorrow to understand the fee structure"
I could see the Sanskrit scriptures, shlokas,moral values being sold to us
Do I want my son to be bought up in such a place NEVER
I would rather expose him to values
I have no clue next year what happens but I dont think I would be happy to place my son in such hyped school
Searching for a simple good and neat school in Bangalore which has great teachers
(Exposure to dance, music and yoga..well that would be added benefits :))
Yup thats my criteria :)
Well even i believe it to a large extent...padnewale bache kahi bhi pad lenge
After coming to Bangalore, first thing my cousins and colleagues kept saying was "Search for a school"
K is 3 yrs old now, you have to get him into a school so that he is there till his 12th
But me and my hubby, thankfully our thoughts matches to 100% in this context
At the end of the day, we want him to be a good person and take up in life what he wants to
He was going to a preschool and I thought of continuing him in the same for a while
Since mummy is a teacher in Kendriya Vidhyalaya, I thought he could join KV after he is 6
But my mama also said that Bangalore KVs arent great
All around us, parents were talking about admissions,exposure,school quality and yes the "bug of school hype" bit us
In no time were we checking various schools website and guess what we were very late
NPS was done (Only cream get selected)
DPS..well everyone said that its too much of burden(as though NPS wont have!Ha)
Prakriya : One more week to get application form (but the road to reach school is bad)
VIBJYOR: Yes but neighbour says that its not great...kids dont get individual attention
Coming to individual attention, I am a KV product, and in my class we were close to 65...i still got attention and have done good in life(well i believe so :) )
So thats when me and my hubby paused and asked ourselves do we really believe in these criteria
We let me list down the criteria what todays hyped parents look at
School has to be Huge
There should be a ground....horce racing will be an added advantage
Oh yes it has to be ICSE/International School Syllabus....ISCSE
Individual Attention is a must
Must have dance/music/abacus exposure
Montessori is a must if you are looking at junior school
The road to school should be a pleasant ride to kids
Even if your kid is four years old, there should be the facility of one comp per child
Well I can list a lot but yes these are the major criterias
Well me and my hubby after lot of thinking said enough...nomore checking...lets do this next year
But then we got a call from a school. Lets call it "G"....we had got mixed reviews on the same by colleagues
But I wanted to experience, this whole concept of admission procedure and hence we went on the day
BTW, this school is supposed to be a value based school
On the D-day, we were late and we thought poor "k" he must be like what parents I have
"K" was excited to see the big school...these days he's fascinated with kids going in big bus :)
So we reach at 10:30 am, btw, our interview schedule was @10 am
I loved its entrance but the sanskrit scriptures were so fake and so commercial (Thats what I felt)
We were then told to sit in the reception...after a while there was a tour arranged
Tour???Yes tour of the school...the first thought that came into my mind was this must be a huge school, but as we went were shown various classrooms,music class,dance class,value class,yoga class, sick room with a docyor,playground,sports room,computer lab,maths lab etc etc
It was hilarious as though we were visiting the zoo
Yes...actually yes it more or less a zoo
I could see bored and dull students inside bright classes
I even saw a stern teacher :)
After visiting all classes we were finally taken inside the theatre and my "k" with excitement asked which movie are we gonna watch momma?
With great difficulty I kept a straight face and told him to be quiet...Hubby darling was laughing out
And then there was a session on the school
Most of the parents were even jotting down points from the presentation..(Dont believe I exaggerated that part :))
They even mentioned on Sanskrit shlokas, moral values which are a part of the curriculum
Though initially I felt nice healring to it but as time flew I felt it was just a commercial place
They were just using these elements to sell their business
After that we were taken back to the reception and the interview process started
Well interview of the kid and then it was the parents turn
All of this made me feel what were we doing there
I just could not relate myself to any parents over there
Something is seriously wrong with us
I could see parents shouting at their child and saying " Remove your hands from your mouth or else you will not get admission"
I could see parents tensed to the core, as if they have come to give an interview in Mckinsey
We were also interviewed and my son refused to say his name to them....and so we thought thats it its over
Hubby said gosh I have never seen such an environment during my engineering days
I felt the same, while giving my M.Pharm exams I was much cooler
This whole experience made me think a lot
I felt people are missing out so much in life...there is so much hype in schooling these days
Do these kids enjoy all this or they just do it for their parents sake
Felt like telling these parents "Take a Break"
And then in the evening hubby gets a call "Congrats, your kid has been selected. Please come tomorrow to understand the fee structure"
I could see the Sanskrit scriptures, shlokas,moral values being sold to us
Do I want my son to be bought up in such a place NEVER
I would rather expose him to values
I have no clue next year what happens but I dont think I would be happy to place my son in such hyped school
Searching for a simple good and neat school in Bangalore which has great teachers
(Exposure to dance, music and yoga..well that would be added benefits :))
Yup thats my criteria :)
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Music Time
Though his earlier one "Whats your Rashee" was sad...this time he hasnt repeated his mistake :)
Even songs of Guzaarish are nice, but you need to create an environment to listen to those songs
These are not FM kind of songs but they are definitely soothing to the core
Btw, I found the songs of Tees Mark Khan very silly!!!
Taken for Granted?
Thats what one of my fren said during our chat over a coffee
I think thats the time when one needs to take a pause, at times one starts feeling that there is no point, being good when the other person takes your goodness for granted. Its sad when the person doing is this is the one who means the world to you
Well I was just pondering on that matter
Its true, at times yes our family, friends,relatives do take us for granted.
How does one manage it?
I just keep quiet during those situations and try to forget it ASAP
But does that work always?It has till date :)
Girls : Equally responsible for Dowry system
I hate 'Dowry system' but above all I hate girls who support this system
I have seen so many girls who are well educated, have a good job, but during their marriage, when their parents offer gold,car etc etc to the grooms parents, they never open their mouth...don't give me the usual dialogue ' we don't have a say in this'
Puhleease you are educated, have a job of your own...don't tell me you cannot voice your opinion? infact I personally feel such girls don't want to voice on this matter...many a times i see girls after marriage comparing with each other on what their parents have given
I am so proud of those very very few girls who voice their opinion...wish we had more of them, atleast then the dreaded system of Dowry could reduce in India
What is the key factor here??? nope its not education coz if that was the case then Dowry would not be prevalent in educated masses..but dowry is prevalent to a very large extent in well to do educated families as well
What do you think where are we lacking?
To start with, I feel when a girl has a boy child...she should make him aware of not taking dowry.....and when he gets married, she should genuinely not take anything from her daughter-in-law....i feel that when more people takes up this approach then after few years we can see India free of dowry
I know its easily said......however I really feel that girls who are educated should make use of their education and not support this foolish system!!!
I feel if only every girl genuinely feel how wrong this system is, will this system be eradicated in future...Whats your say???
I have seen so many girls who are well educated, have a good job, but during their marriage, when their parents offer gold,car etc etc to the grooms parents, they never open their mouth...don't give me the usual dialogue ' we don't have a say in this'
Puhleease you are educated, have a job of your own...don't tell me you cannot voice your opinion? infact I personally feel such girls don't want to voice on this matter...many a times i see girls after marriage comparing with each other on what their parents have given
I am so proud of those very very few girls who voice their opinion...wish we had more of them, atleast then the dreaded system of Dowry could reduce in India
What is the key factor here??? nope its not education coz if that was the case then Dowry would not be prevalent in educated masses..but dowry is prevalent to a very large extent in well to do educated families as well
What do you think where are we lacking?
To start with, I feel when a girl has a boy child...she should make him aware of not taking dowry.....and when he gets married, she should genuinely not take anything from her daughter-in-law....i feel that when more people takes up this approach then after few years we can see India free of dowry
I know its easily said......however I really feel that girls who are educated should make use of their education and not support this foolish system!!!
I feel if only every girl genuinely feel how wrong this system is, will this system be eradicated in future...Whats your say???
Back to Bengaluru
This blog should have been written couple of months back...wee precisely 6 months back, thoough I had posted the same in one of my blogs, i have forgotten that site and so am reposting the same
Its been a long time since I have posted something on personal front
2009 was great for us. We had a gala time in Mumbai…loved visiting new places in and around Mumbai during weekends…K had a gala time, he started going to a preschool and has now started socializing very well {I sometime miss his mama chipkoo days!:)}
I had joined a startup and that was a definite learning experience!
In Mumbai we shifted twice as we wanted to avoid traveling while going to work. We couldn’t have asked for more as work area was close by, however, even though we stayed in a nice apartments, somewhere something was missing…we were missing going to our native place...when we were in Bangalore, we used to visit Kerala/Chennai atleast once in two months but after reaching Mumbai, the frequency reduced…even my parents and in-laws visited Mumbai just twice as distance was an issue
K developed running nose on a permanent basis…though I never gave him medicines but it was obvious that pollution was the cause…with loads of construction happening near to our place, we were always surrounded by a blanket of dust
Hubby’s career was going on well, but even he wanted to get back and that’s when we took up the decision of coming back to Bangalore
Thankfully we both got a very very good opportunity at that moment, and here we are Back with a bang in good ol’ BangaloreJ
Life couldn’t be better…I am enjoying, settling down and my heart sings It’s a wonderful wonderful life……
Its been a long time since I have posted something on personal front
2009 was great for us. We had a gala time in Mumbai…loved visiting new places in and around Mumbai during weekends…K had a gala time, he started going to a preschool and has now started socializing very well {I sometime miss his mama chipkoo days!:)}
I had joined a startup and that was a definite learning experience!
In Mumbai we shifted twice as we wanted to avoid traveling while going to work. We couldn’t have asked for more as work area was close by, however, even though we stayed in a nice apartments, somewhere something was missing…we were missing going to our native place...when we were in Bangalore, we used to visit Kerala/Chennai atleast once in two months but after reaching Mumbai, the frequency reduced…even my parents and in-laws visited Mumbai just twice as distance was an issue
K developed running nose on a permanent basis…though I never gave him medicines but it was obvious that pollution was the cause…with loads of construction happening near to our place, we were always surrounded by a blanket of dust
Hubby’s career was going on well, but even he wanted to get back and that’s when we took up the decision of coming back to Bangalore
Thankfully we both got a very very good opportunity at that moment, and here we are Back with a bang in good ol’ BangaloreJ
Life couldn’t be better…I am enjoying, settling down and my heart sings It’s a wonderful wonderful life……
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
New Avatar!!!
So if you see my same posts in a blog named Beautiful Life(http://liveinpeace1209.blogspot.in/) ...don't ever think that I copied them, that was my earlier blog :)...thought of moving into a new Avatar!!!
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